This is in response to a couple of comments from this post. I'm no expert, but from my own experiences I can give some pointers on how to at least not be a Kelly from Real Housewives. This chick just can't make friends with any of the ladies and has to invite some trophy guy with her everywhere she goes. If she bumps into a girl she just met she'll act like she's never seen her, but if she bumps into that girl's boyfriend she'll give him the warmest of greetings. She is so fricking annoying!
First of all, you do need your girlfriends. I don't care how catty, competitive, and petty chicas can be, a life without close girlfriends (if you're a girl) is lacking. You're missing out. I look at my friend Randy for example and although she has a really strong supportive family, I know that things would be harder for her right now if it wasn't for us being there and constantly doing things with her situation in mind.
For girls that feel they are more comfortable generally around males than females, have you ever thought that this has to do with YOU and the vibes that YOU yourself are giving off? Maybe through your own guarded or defensive attitude and body language you're sending a message that you don't want to be friendly. Would you want to talk to you?
SO then, for starters you can start becoming conscious of emitting friendly and welcoming energy. Make yourself more approachable, and make it easy for you to approach others. You should be the judge of how to best do that. Maybe you should look up and smile more (and don't smile at only guys). Maybe you should learn to compliment. It's not being fake, it's being friendly.
Tip#2, make efforts! I would want to make friends with the type of girls who I feel like would be there for me so I'd click with the ones that make the time and day. Organize a girls brunch and invite people-and tell them they can bring people. I would only not invite people I really didn't like or people who I thought wouldn't mix well with that crowd. Make sure you advertise it as a girls event. I always do stuff like this when I find myself in a new environment or when I get introduced to a new group. It's a great ice breaker and the right girls will respond positively. Your efforts will be appreciated which feels good, and the invites will be returned. After you've put yourself out there naturally you'll click and form more lasting bonds with the ones you have more in common with
Tip #3, you have to actually WANT to make friends in order to make friends. You can dismiss girls as being not worth your companionship....but then that's your problem.
Tip #4, Be considerate!